Hmmm What makes DBing harder for me....when I'm so comfortable that I don't even THINK of it?
I can get self-centred at times, like about sharing computer time, and am easily "put out"...I KNOW that comes across as controlling. Why else would CJ say (last night when he logged on) "I'll only be 15 minutes".
When I heard that (and he sounded...chastened) I just opted to take a long bath, over an hour, so he could just work away without any pressure.
SO I guess what WORKS for me, is to be AWARE of what I am doing/saying and how CJ might take it. To make CHOICES that bring us closer together.
What also works is to acknowledge when I've slipped, and apologise for it asap...kind of nips things in the bud, instead of letting them fester.
What do I need to work on??? LOTS.
Somehow I need to communicate how very badly I feel about the whole physical side of our R. I can't imagine that he doesn't KNOW this already, but if so, why no results?????
I also need to be more forthcoming with my irritations and expectations. This yard stuff was a start, he IS taking care of it within the 2-week time frame .
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