H has made the comment that he doesn't want to move back to a trailer park. That has got me wondering if OW didn't rent a trailer in a park somewhere, and that is why he won't move in with her.
You could be right. Didn't you say she lived in a trailer with her BF?
The way that I look at it, if he truly loved her, it wouldn't matter where they lived. Just another reason to keep your patient vigil.
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It is amazing how the OW seems to feel entitled to tell you what you should be thinking and how it should be. I feel that is the way it works weather they are talking to you or not. They are putting their plans with your H in the way of the dreams you have created.
I know. I think there are two reasons she felt like she could tell me those things; 1. She's stupid and self centered, and 2. She used to be a friend. I consider both to be her loss.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
oh girlie that beeotch did not!!!! omg, she sounds insane like mine is! ya want me to come up there, and uh the two of us can have a little talkin to with her lol???
She did! Can you imagine? "Oh he want's different things out of life than you do, he doesn't really want a new house and he is happy with the little old farmhouse bla, bla, bla!
I would LOVE for you to come up and we could "meet her for a drink." I know that both of my sons would also like to be in on the chat with her.
She is a skanky piece of work!
Good luck with your love dare. I know you can do it. If I remember correctly you don't like to call him at work because the OW is there too? Is that right?
I suppose now would be a good time for me to get mine out and begin it. The timing didn't feel right before, but it does now.
Thank you BG and everyone for your support and kind words today. They have helped me so much!
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
You know, we still have the house plans in the computer. And I have a box in a closet with all of the inside stuff. Maybe someday. I too am glad that we weren't in the middle of it when MLC hit. I still also just wish I realized what this was earlier. Maybe I would be handling it a little better than I am. That was actually one of the first signs. H became hesitant about moving. Had one stupid excuse after another, then the market tanked anyway.
Don't you just love the OW? I had one actually tell me that I needed to talk to my H. I just finally told her she wasn't the first and she wouldn't be the last. She never called him again that i know of. The other one, I haven't even bothered to call. Why waste my time and energy. I guess H isn't speaking to me today. Big surprise after Monday and all of the gushing yesterday morning. He told me too much. So.......
I like the musical idea. I am actually being dragged to some art museum on Saturday. I have never really been a museum kinda girl, I like zoos better but it will be fun just to get out of the house.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Hey i have a post going on newbies for the love dare. and a blog you can find the addy at out there in the other world. doing this has helped me, I havent cried for a couple days, and the negative talking thing hasnt been as hard as I thought, it sure cant hurt, i know I truly tried, and if it doesnt work, I did all I could!
I would love to come there, lets do yours first, then you can come back here and we can handle mine lol! they are both skanky! hey lets take mine back to where she started to have that drink, the titty bar lmao!!!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Yes, she lived in a trailer with BF too. It was out in the country and not in a park. I didn't mind the trailer as much as the being right next to people. But you know in Kansas tornadoes are drawn to trailer parks. LOL! Not really but it never fails that it hits one!
I know you not being her friend anymore is one of her biggest losses! I have only known you for a little over a month and I know you are a great friend!!
We live in a trailor out here in the boonies, I constantly think about tornados lol!! least I should be able to see it coming from any direction hehehe!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
We have tornados in Michigan too. A year ago last August one came thru, missed our house but blew 2 doors off the barn. We were very lucky. Less than a mile away 6 homes were destroyed.
We have a basement and I try to keep my eyes open when we have bad weather.
I have always been afraid of tornados and car accidents. Those were the things that gave me bad dreams when I was a kid.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
When we lived in the trailer park I was a basketcase sometimes. The worst was one Memorial Day weekend, that the movie Twister came out we went to see it and when we came out we were under a warning. It pretty much freaked me out! We had some hit in nearby towns that night and did some pretty good damage. Once we moved and I had the basement again, I was OK. I just like to know it is there if I need it!
We get tornados here in Fl too. Especially with the bad rain and with hurricanes. You are right, they do seem to like trailer parks. Had one come right down the street when S was small. We hid in the closet because we don't have basements in Fl. Sinkholes you know.
Bad dreams, mine were about snakes and jackals, which is kinda funny cuz I love snakes.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
