The paranoia thing is a time and energy blackhole. Like many of us I spent years standing next to it and couldn't function. Keeping the PMA up and realizing that if our R is worth it, I'd better not worry about "it" anymore. Becuase poor PMA about "history" is basically what lead up to our current sitch.
Instead of laying on the couch, because I've exhausted myself worrying about "it" all day, my W asks me why I have so much energy?
Easy to say hard to do, I know, it took me three years of wasted time and energy to figure it out. Once in a while that darn blackhole still calls my name, but I'm learning to ignore it more often than not.
