I have a colleague at work who is a few years ahead of me in the whole D/recovery process. We are friends, and have been supportive of each other over the past few years.
He started dating on Match a couple of years ago and met someone. They dated for about a year, and then moved in together. She has 2 girls and he has a son and the kids are all between 6th and 10th grade.
They have been working to buy a house and he has been keeping me updated on the progress. Like many of us here, his D from his wife was financially debilitating, so the whole process of getting a loan, etc was lengthy. A few weeks ago, I saw him and he was all set to sign the papers and then move in the following weekend.
I saw him yesterday and asked him how the move went. Well. I was expecting him to tell me how great his new house was, maybe a tale of a pulled muscle from the move...you know.
Turns out his GF was married! OMG! He says it was a "citizenship" marriage for someone from her country of origin. He also says that they have become a lot closer working through it.
I say, it will be interesting for me to see how this story develops.
Food for thought indeed!
Take care, SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
