Faith, good morning, sounds that you are DBing. Question do you know who your H is having an EA/PA with and how long has it been going on? At least he is commited to the kids which is a good start and gives you much opportunity to DB on a regular basis. Need to get "surviving an affair" and take the quiz at the back of the book to see what HIS top needs are and then use your DBing to plan around these. Next couple of days will not be bad here because H is at offsite conference and I did not go. I am working on dropping the rope and letting go. It is very difficult and I think others made a good point the more we snoop the more we obsess. I cannot control their A but I can control myself. I have been working on myself every day. Walking every night, joined a gym, doing yoga -- I do not have much of a social life here because I do not know alot of people outside of work which makes it difficult. How long is your H going to be away? It might give H time to miss you and maybe the OW will slowly fade away since she probably will not wait. good luck
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
