Originally Posted By: whatdidido
I agree, Karen. You are a very good person and you shouldn't stop being that person because your H is not being a good one. At this point is not doing things for him giving him reality? I think it is passed that. Right now, you keep loving him. You're still married. What he decides is alll him.
Thanks you guys. If I'm a bit down, you always cheer me up 110%! \:\) BH, you are so sweet!!!! \:\) I think you're right to some extent, wdid. I have different goals than someone trying to DB their marriage. I really am DBing myself in my mind anyway. I don't want this to change me too much or stress myself out. I am going to try not to be too super-enabling or whatever, and next time I'm going to try not to rush in and make H feel all better though. But yeah, I'm not going to beat myself up (too much) over a Snickers!!! \:\)

Oh, you mentioned reality, and I think H is going to get a boost of that today. I had to email him today, our house insurance down payment is a little over $500 and my L wants him to get the heater fixed. I think he's going to claim poverty and told my L that, and I said that's probably true with the 3 vacations he's taken, $1000 or so he spent on hotel rooms in December & January, and $300 pogo stick purchases. But of course H blames me for it all!!! Anyway, my L called his L and his L said he's going to have H call me about the heating. My L told me to hang up if he's yelling, and so I'm guessing give me the boo hoo I'm broke act. I'm so sick of this!!! So today I need to find all the financial records and print them out for my L so she has proof. This is so stressful!!! \:\( Karen

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