Good. He's wavering already. That means that what you are doing is working. He's making the biggest mistake of his life, and someone needs to make him face some conseqences for his actions instead of allowing him to blame someone else for where he ends up. You need to calmly and resolutely go out to that fence he loves sitting on and affix many layers of really pokey barbed wire to the top.
He has been given the tools to fix things. I don't believe he doesn't know what he wants... that is a decision; one he made many years ago, as a matter of fact. He isn't trying to love you, he is trying to make you quit. Right now he doesn't deserve the family that had faith and gave their hearts to him.
He knows what to do. You have done an incredible job, BBJ, and while I initially thought he was too stressed out to do this, his actions, when given the space and time to choose, prove otherwise. You aren't the one pressuring him, BBJ.
You take care of you and your kids. The rest is his baby to rock and if he wants to be there for his kids, he will find a way. Don't make this easy for him... the boy needs to face the reality of what he is doing!
Sara and Mike are right. It's time for him to grow up. We don't come into this world deserving a "great life" and happiness, we are responsible for creating it. You gave this your all and he took advantage of your deep, unconditional, love for him and dream for your family.
You will find new dreams honey, because he may be able to crush those dreams for now, but he can't crush your spirit.
This is when "love must be tough". Go Kalni Sunshine on his a$$!
