10/17/08 I called W several minutes ago, told her I was calling to find out how she was doing, she said she was better, that she has so much to keep track of, work her dad, the kids and with everything going on someone last night made her feel bad (hurt her feelings), they said something to her that upset her and since then she has been a mess. All I said was I was checking in on her to see if she was ok
I'm glad I didn't hug my W or say I was sorry she felt bad, because the only thing that would have upset her would be some one giving her trouble about WAS or WAM.
W cannot keep anything straight, this weekend was crazy, with soccer games, me working concession stand at parish, D6 and D6 birthday. I was constantly reminding W of the times she had to pick up the girls, when the soccer games were, she was running late all weekend, telling me at the last minute about a change in where we were having D6 and D6 birthday party (at the last minute I find out everyone was coming over to my house). She forgot where she put the presents for the girls, got lost taking the girls roller skating. It was a crazy weekend.
Yesterday W left for a week trip with OM, she won't be back until next Wednesday. I don't know where she went, she told kids she was going on a business trip. (she works at a small tavern/bar) She told me on Sunday she was leaving. I didn't ask any questions, other than when she was coming back.
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Karen: You could try to work on being a little friendly, but I don't think you should try to be her friend. I think she really needs more like the help of a C in my opinion. Does she see one or would she be willing to? Or if she is seeing one maybe she needs to switch to someone else? Maybe that's what you could suggest something like that next time she is clearly in pain?
No she doesn't have a C and she is not willing to see one. She doesn't think anything is wrong with her, she just wasn't cut out to be a mom and doesn't want to be tied down, she wants to run and do her own thing.
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Puppy: You're overreacting to my point. All I suggested was for you to add some common "please" and "thank you" courtesies in your interactions with your wife, especially in front of your children. If you don't feel you can do the hug part, then don't do that, but saying "thank you" and "goodbye" and such shouldn't really be that difficult.
Why, she said she appreciates all I do, well if I didn't take care of the kids who would. She appreciates that I take care of the kids so she can do what she wants. It's October 22nd and she hasn't taken the kids for a single day. A half of day here and there and that's it. She swoops in and takes them for a half of a day, buys them presents and takes them to places they want to go, like roller skating or McDonalds, I barley talk to W in front of the kids and when I do, I am polite with her but other than that it's no contact.
When you kick a dog so many times the dog learns to avoid you
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Amount of time WAM spent with kids so far this month = 1.16666 days
