We all too know there no reason he s gonna change what he is doing as long as you as available as you are for his common needs. These idiots will stay in limbo forever as long as it is the path of least resistance.
This sums it up perfectly. My xH would have happily stay married and cheat on me. I did ALL the filing, the appointment making, everything. At first I started it to 'rev' him up, then I continued because I could no longer stand being married to someone who doesn't value me, in any way. Did I want a divorce? Heck, no. Do I love him? Heck, yes. But guess what. Nothing would have changed and I didn't want to see myself in the same spot a year from now.
Some points:
*I want to say I am done posting to you, but I see your pain, feel it, have lived it. So I want to keep trying to persuade you to take a different route.
*Your H should MAN the H*LL up and face your legal stuff. Why would you allow him to run and hide from it, just because (boo hoo) he can't 'handle' it? Then freaking handle it yourself. He is pathetic.
*You walk away from sex EVERY time feeling used and unloved. Why did you think it would be different this time? Because he was nice before hand? I stopped being with my husband when he stopped kissing me (he said it was too personal...ummm. ok) because I want everything when I make love. Not to be used. And let's not even get into the fact that it is physically unsafe to have sex with a WAS, a friend on this board got genital warts from her H just recently.
*newmoro pointed out something so important. H is using you to keep the farm up, eat and rest when he wants (and no pressure from you because you allow it, and keep your mouth shut), and sex whenever he looks your way. You even pointed out that you didn't want to feel used, and lookie lookie, he used you.
TOH, I promise to keep following you but I don't want to get carpel tunnel for nuttin'. I know everyone does what they think is best, but sometimes, it doesn't work.
I know everyone does what they think is best, but sometimes, it doesn't work.