what makes piecing difficult for you?

[sage]

Love the thread, LL. I'm sure I'll duplicate thoughts that both you and jethro have already articulated but since we all seem to go thru some of this stuff...I don't think a bit of duplication hurts...

times when db'ing is difficult
when I'm overly tired, feeling unfit (not enough exercise, too much food or drink)
when I've let myself get caught up in predicting the future "what if"
whe I make ASSumptions about what h is thinking or feeling
when I have expectations about the "right" outcome
when I forget that h is my friend
when I ASSume that h has negative ulterior motives
when I've spent SO long fixated on a negative thought that I explode!


things that have worked
noticing at least 3 positives every day and thanking him for them
having fun together no matter what else is going on (movies, dates, etc)
when I focus on the present -- what's going on right this minute
when I remember that he's been hurt, too
when I take control and responsibility for my own STUFF -- my mood, my reaction, my expectation
when I manage my own reaction to a tough situation -- don't EXPECT a reaction from him, don't overreact to what he does
when I keep busy and happy in other areas of my life
knowing when to back off, keep quiet


things to work on
shutting off the ASSumption, expectation, future doom and gloom thought process inside my head
Keeping up the appreciation of h.
Keeping up the appreciation of ME!
Remembering to be present TODAY
Remembering to question my ASSumptions: Is that really true?
Noting the positives
Trying new 180s