Great Thread LL!

Jethro, all I can say is wow. You hit it on the head for me.

One thing I've noticed for me:
When I make a mistake, I get scared that it is such a big mistake that he's going to walk again.

Then, I get so caught up in coming up with a strategy that I drive myself crazy with worry and fear.

My naturaly instinct is to keep calling him so that I can 'gauge' how the relationship is based on his response to me.

Unfortunately, that only makes him feel pressured and smothered.

So, I think a solution is to apologize for my mistake, back off and stop pressuring/smothering him, and refocus on myself and my life improvements.

PIB