Face it. The guy doesn't know what he wants. He is hurting inside and has no idea how to fix it. He is too proud to seek help for himself and may even refuse to believe deep down that he is the root of his own problems. He is flailing about right now. Remember the drowning swimmer? Not to be cold, but unless he gets some help for himself I'm worried about what he does after the divorce. He is going to be miserable and the "moral" boundaries that kept his behavior in line will be gone. He is going to be lonely and have a big hole in him he is going to try to fill.
This isn't about you. This is about his issues. He has no idea how to be happy does he?
