Back to life, back to reality?

[istherehope]

OK...

So I got to work, and H asked how I was on IM. He then said that there was no way he was going to talk about our sitch on IM, but could he have 3 days to himself. He was feeling panicky. He said he is trying to incorporate me, and that he likes talking to me...so of course in a way this was talking about the sitch, but I didn't let it get too far, and said "I understand", "don't worry", "of course you can have 3 days".

Then he talked about doing another week after these 3 days. I said that I didn't mind the 3 day/4 day split. Maybe this way I can just keep going that way for awhile.

Then surprise of surprises, he said he wanted to spend the weekend together, and maybe drive to Galway...

I am floored, but need to remember that this is probably still a trial in his mind. I think the best way to try and make the living sitch work is to keep doing days on and days off. I feel that this might help matters. I offered to stay in the spare room too, but he said that didn't matter.

Now I actually think that my very harsh and somewhat pushy email got through to him...in any case it is the only thing that has changed between yesterday when he sent his email, and today. Maybe he actually needed to hear a bit of anger from me, instead of sadness. This email was 100% genuine and from the heart, and maybe this is why it meant more than my other DB-safe emails. One of my lines was "I believe feelings are a choice, and we're not victims of them." I know, loads of 2X4s, but I am relieved that we will be doing something together this weekend.

Wow, still feeling floored...

ITH