Piecing - Post Traumatic Stress?

[daybyday]

hey dnoy,
i'was also where you are now. my awas recommitted in may. things were just like they said. honeymoon period, lots of affection, all that good stuff. then things cooled a bit. thats when my resentment started to surface. it is a power thing. no doubt about it. deep down i think our spouses found that they kind of liked the power they had over us. we really had no choice . we had to yield whatever power we had to save the marriage. thats where my resentment came in. but i have to say, it is getting back to normal. i think yours will too. its just going take time to get thoughts of OP out of your mind. i think also, that we can help balance the power a little more by not being so available. detaching a tad. more gal. when i start to do this, wife steps ups and acts like i wish she would. but its kind of vicious circle. she draws me back, which causes me to be more available, i stop gal, she backs off my resentment sets in yada yada. but, these instances are becoming fewer as time goes on. i think yours will too. but i really think the key is to get on with YOUR life. the power 5hing will sort itself out. saffie gives great advice. just adding my two cents. daybyday