it's seems in piecing we all come to different phases at similar times. We tend to notice these themes after we've posted and pondered about them on our own threads seeking a solution. I figured I'd start this thread as a place for all of us to use to note realizations and possible solutions. with the flow of traffic here in piecing it can become difficult to follow everybody and therefore some may miss out on the great ideas and progress that is made. This should not be a place to vent about what we don't like but a place to note how we effect what we don't like and what we are doing or intend to do about it and to note if it is or isn't working for us.
negative things I've noticed (or times when good dbing is more difficult.
when I'm tired I tend to think or analyze to much taking everything personally not letting go of the sense of impending doom (or waiting for the other shoe to drop or reaperance of ow or a new ow) fear of failure blaming myself for too much holding out for expectations trying to gage things with some fictional meter (hmmm would h have done this at "that" time? are things really different? noting the difficult times (when we are both busy and don't spend a whole hunk of time together I allow myself to go down that dark tunnel of impending doom)
things that have worked
focussing on the positives being me but also not excusing me for behaving badly knowing when to appologize for misconceptions knowing when to leave things alone aknowledging when h speaks his love language aknowledging when h speaks my love language showing apreciation for what h does even when it's his love language and not mine (saying thank you)
things to work on keeping that possitive attitude learning how to get back up when I fall letting go of expectations accepting that it's ok to be happy (letting go of that fear of impending doom) I'm sure there's more but that's a start
please share your accomplishments and challenges here and let's use this thread as a work sheet of sorts to find solutions!!
