Dear Lan, first of all, you are a perv, I dont care what others here say...
Secondly, I agree with Rob 100%. I think I have tried to tell you this in the past but I guess I didnt know how. I dont care what you ve been through, your W is a woman and speaking as a woman, I would say concetrate on the "foreplay" of the thing and let the hard core happen naturally.
Foreplay is MENTAL (PLEASE dont laugh at my English) Love xxxx K