Hope you were able to get a little more sleep after 3 am.
I think I am the the one that called the OW "competition". Please know that I did not intend to sound like you should compete for your H, but that if you were thinking about shaking up the outside version of yourself, see what maybe attracted your H and do it one better. All changes that you make should be first for you, but most of us also want to be attractive for our H. That's why we're here isn't it? To make us better people with the hope that it will also speak to our S.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
