On one hand H said a few times he is not sure about any of this.
On the other he said he doesn't want to be in limbo any longer.
I asked him if he had thought it through, to calling me his ex-wife, how he will feel the first Christmas he is not with the kids b/c his new wife wants him at home, etc. He said he hadn't thought that far down the line...
I asked why he would want me to co-sign, he said b/c he doesn't think he can get a house without me, and it wouldn't be doing it for him, it would be so he can give the kids a place to live without going up to Omaha for an apartment...
He said he didn't realize I would go right for a lawyer, I said I didn't realize he would go right for a new house...I thought it was all moving fast, he agreed. H wants a mediator, he thinks lawyers will complicate everything and cost way too much in the end. He wants to split our total income 50/50 but keep his debts as his (truck/tractor, an extra $1300/mo for him), and split the other debts (Nebraska Furniture Mart), and I keep my debt (Discover card). But he assured me he will pay off the discover card and the two cattle trailers, plus the Neb Furn Mart with his January bonus. I said if we keep it simple we could be divorced by New Year's, are you ready to be divorced?
H said he didn't know what else to do....he couldn't be in limbo any more. I said neither could I, I just had a different solution to the problem of limbo (fixing it).
This morning I asked H if he had told his parents...he said he didn't think he needed to do that yet. WTF? I wonder if he wants to wait until his mom has her surgery.
On a different note, H commented after putting the kids to bed last night that D was sure fighting going to bed, she was hard to get to sleep, etc.....I said yeah, I know she is hard to put to bed...he looked at me and I could tell he realized what an a$$ he had been Sunday night when I was trying to get her to sleep.
