Anyway one is military one is civilian I knew since High School
Both are married, multiple affairs, successful in their jobs, one has children the other does not. Both have been married for decades.
Both have had long periods away from their wives due to employment. By all rights they should have been dumped.
OK now instead of complaining (why me? I did not cheat.) lets look at Chazz's quote
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Honest self-assesment (not to be confused with self-blame or self-condemnation) is dealing with truth in a mature way. I do not believe we can ever change anything that we are not honest about.
With that said I have read countless articles of dying marriages on this BB for the last 3+ years. I rarely visit other bbs.
I said this before but the common thread I have found was making that emotional connection with your spouse. Both of my friends had it with their spouse.
How one achieves it? If I knew that and was willing to do it I would not be where I am. My situation has some great advantages and sometimes it's putting lipstick on a pig. But a pig with lipsitck looks happy and sooner or later he is happy even if the other pigs laugh at him.
Two points out of this mess of electrons 1. Assess and fix what you did wrong 2. When you dive in again (and most of you will) make and keep that emotional connection. Reguardless if you use prayer, video games, or pool as a catalyst if you do not do #1 and #2 you will revisit this board With less money With more pain And probably a lot more humble
But look on the bright side. Blame the X all the way (with the exceptions like abuse) and you can say
Quote:
There is no way but up
Disclaimer: (say this real fast) Putting lipstick on pigs should only left to professional pig make up artists and never should be attempted in a china shop. Consult the TV show producers Green Acres prior to attempting procedure.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
