Granted, she only wants to be around me because OM left her and is a complete jerk. I remind her of this. I remind her of what she threw away and how she was only a piece of meat to him, and he never really loved her. I also remind her that I don't play second fiddle and she will have to earn my trust back.
At some point you will need to stop rubbing her face in this and let it go.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
