I think it was both me and Sandi that recommended you act like you are not married. It's funny that you made love with him in that frame of mind.
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I feel better each week I think . When I first posted I was an emotional wreck and now I even have moments where I think - wow I feel happy.
I get that vibe from you. Things are better. And that's a really good trend!
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I saw H yesterday and in minutes he was all over me and we ML. ( hope that is not to much information) Trouble was it he never looked at me. So is it ML or will I in time feel used? Or should i take this as a step in the right direction. I have been dressing provocatively and been upbeat and leaving him alone of sorts ( BBQ was first non work thing we have done in a while - mind you he never spoke to me )
Ack! This is terrific! Fell used?!???! Why in hell would you feel THAT? You want him don't you? This is a way to connect with him, ain't it? you've been dressing provocatively and it worked. D4mn, woman! And who knows if it is a step or just sex? It's positive, seems to me. It's better than a poke in the eye.
No expectations, right? Who knows if it will happen again. Just bank that one, and keep open to other opportunities.
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I am glad you have decided to wait . If you have no where to go to in a hurry then I see the sense of moving forward for your own self but at the same time being receptive to any improvement in relations.
You sound frustrated at the speed of which it is taking for her to be totally independent. If she has not been real with herself about how it is all going to work, then she is in for a hell of a shock.
Yes, I am frustrated, but it's not something I can affect. I don't wish a shock for her. I just want it to be real. I just want the implications to be here, for real. It's too bad that the real implications have been delayed so long. And who knows, maybe I am too hopeful that these practical consequences will have any effect on her perspective. Regardless, the consequences are happening now, which is fine with me.
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Divorce is not meant to be easy but it needs to be fair.
It isn't going to be "fair" to either of us. I won't be paying for her forever.
It's super to hear that your daughter will be coming home to visit.
