SPM - you always make me feel a little stronger. Your like the gym instuctor that gets that little more out of you.
I dont think that I have asked for success stories from my position but I have searched this site for them. I suppose I am looking for something to hang on to, or to try something that someone else has done successfully.
Bottom line though is your right about me being the only one I can control. Plus everyone is different.
I feel better each week I think . When I first posted I was an emotional wreck and now I even have moments where I think - wow I feel happy. I am the tpye of person that does kid around and laugh and seem to be happy but in past year that has not been true. But I have precious moments of it now.
I saw H yesterday and in minutes he was all over me and we ML. ( hope that is not to much information) Trouble was it he never looked at me. So is it ML or will I in time feel used? Or should i take this as a step in the right direction. I have been dressing provocatively and been upbeat and leaving him alone of sorts ( BBQ was first non work thing we have done in a while - mind you he never spoke to me )
I am glad you have decided to wait . If you have no where to go to in a hurry then I see the sense of moving forward for your own self but at the same time being receptive to any improvement in relations.
You sound frustrated at the speed of which it is taking for her to be totally independent. If she has not been real with herself about how it is all going to work, then she is in for a hell of a shock.
Although i am very unfamiliar with how your laws work , I cant believe that you are responsible anyway for her. Unless you choose to keep the financial payments up on the house. Works a little different here. I know that you cannot force a wife with kids to leave the family home BUT you come to an arrangement and that is not H pays all and W does nothing. She would have to buy H out or contribute her share of mortgage or sell. That meANS getting a job. Divorce is not meant to be easy but it needs to be fair.
These times are not easy either. When does the no contact thing run out ?
Raining again here and getting dark. We have long weekend coming up and my D18 comes home from university for 4 months next W. Something to look forward to.
Someone here ( might of been you ) said to act like you are not married to him and you know what , that works for me - well most of the time. Would never of ML to him if I was thinking that at the time. Ha Ha
