(((Ladybug))) I can say with almost 100% certainty that he doesn't get to decide how much child support he pays. Here, it is based on a formula and has to be within 10% of the calculated amount or the court wants to know why. Spousal maintenance is a free for all here, but that is factored into the other parent's income when calculating child support.
At this point, ignore him and what he says about money, about moving out, about everything. When I talked to the attorney here, he said approximately 10% of divorced actually make it to the judge, and a contested divorce with lawyers can easily run $20K and more. My MIL and her ex each spent $20K. Here mediation runs $270/hr and according to their website, most couples can get things done with 6-8 hours of work. That is about $3K.
If I were you, I'd try the mediation route as it's significantly less expensive, but, don't be afraid to get a lawyer involved or the police involved if necessary.
