Thanks for your input. Yes, I think it will be easier to do a "Plan B" now than it ever would have been before. Since my W came home 23 weeks ago I have copped precious little other than disrespect, hostility, contempt and other vile and sickening behaviours.
I was bad, and she has been abusive in return. So, I am far more inclined to throw the towel in myself than I ever would have been previously.
The longer I am at this, the more my situation looks like a PA/EA rather than a WAW scenario. Although my W did leave the home she always wanted to keep me in the loop and influence my decisions - saying things like "this is a separation for now" and "It's destiny that we will be together" etc. It turns out that she asked OM out on a date before she left me so this is a "straightforward" EA/PA with all of its latent characteristics: lying, using, vacillation and gaslighting.
I never once got the "I'm done, the marriage is over" or "I want a divorce".
Will keep all of you posted.
GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
