First to Ellie, thanks for the website for financial info. I will definitely check it out. As far as seeing a counselor, he would never go. He has always said therapy is useless and even if I got him there, he'd walk out the first time he felt criticized. No, he never mentioned any kinky fantasies. He has always wanted me in the 3some and has never talked about wanting one without me.
SG, thanks for the award! Not really what I was going for, but I'll take it. I doubt I'm the first wife who has done this thinking it would help the marriage. I'm not sure where I'll go from here. He is out of town tonight so we have a break from each other. I guess I'll just wait and see how he is when he gets back tomorrow evening.
keyzblew, I have to say that the concern about the finiancial aspects of a D and saving the relationship are about even at this point. I, too, wonder about the sex addiction aspect and I'm not sure just how healthy our sexual relationship is.
lwb, thanks for the book recommendation. I'm a firm believer in tough love. I've just never applied it to my marriage relationship. I guess there's a first time for everything.
I think I feel worse that my marriage may end than I really feel about myself. I've given a huge amount in this marriage. If it fails, I think I can say I gave everything I could give without totally losing myself.
