Positive developments?

[jon2911]

Well, last night was a ride. I had recovery group, then went out for football and drinks. I had missed a call from W at 7:00, tried her back at 8:00 but she was on the line.

Called her when I was leaving the bar at 11:30. We made small-talk for a little while, then she said "I had a really horrible day". Surprised, I asked about it. She said FIL had called a meeting over dinner. She asked step-MIL if this had to do with her sister, that she didn't want to get involved, and was told "don't worry, your dad doesn't want to hurt her". W went, and received the news that FIL is officially boycotting SIL's wedding, all his reasons, etc.

W is pissed. She says her dad is being selfish when he should just go along and play the part, and that the repercussions will be enormous. She also feels like step-MIL lied to her to convince her to come, when the news could have been relayed over e-mail. FIL is extremely overpowering in these "meetings", the several I've had with him are some of my worst memories. W talked with SIL for a while last night, about how it's always the same BS from their dad, over and over.

What a turnaround. W loves her dad, and tries to please him to a fault. Back in March, he convinced her to move home. It really goes along with a lot of the Adult Child of and Alcoholic stuff I've read. She had a terrible migraine last night, but I was able to talk her to sleep. Hello! Where do you think all this comes from, W?

We talked several times today, and she thanked me for listening. I feel like this is big, but need to gather my thoughts. Think I'll go canoeing tonight and bring my phone with me in case she calls.