Is your concern more focused on the financial aspects of a D or whether you wonder if you can even resolve this relationship?
I have to ditto every word Ellie has put here. My ex was involved in a situation like this with his OW. (Not me. He mentioned it to me once and I just gave him the deer in the headlights look--"are you flipping nuts or what?")
I had a C going through my divorce who wondered, although my ex refused to attend any therapy/counseling, if there was a sex addiction component involved in our situation. Sure seemed like it.
Is it possible you did this out of fear in order to save your M? I sense that you are questioning or feel awful about it with this statement:
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I finally feel strong enough to say no and to look at what the consequences might be.
You shouldn't feel guilty. Just realize to love yourself enough to set the boundaries you need to have a healthy sexual relationship. It sounds like to me you may wonder whether this was a healthy, loving, sexual relationship.
