I could have written your post!!!! I went throught he same things with my h. He wanted to be home but was still involved with the ow. He moved home and out angain so many times.
My H used to say the same things as your h did. Their minds are scrambled eggs right now that is for sure.
It's good that your H is in C. When my H went to C is when things started changing ever so slowly but they changed!
Believe me I know how frustrating it can be with the back and forth with your H. Hang in there and get an exorcist!!!! LOL