But to be honest, anyone who has divorce busted well I can't honeslty view doing that. I would think anyone who has understood db well would'nt hurry something like that to begin with.
Winnie....I would agree that moving in or marrying someone too soon or from an unreliable introduction (such as discussion boards or chat rooms) is unwise.
I do believe that someone can have embraced and practiced the principles of Divorce Busting and still make a mistake. Our hearts are deceitful and often desparate beyond what we understand.
When I was working through my D issues and all of the pain everyone commended me on the commitment I was making to my own recovery and growth. They were seeing it in leaps and bounds.
Yet somehow, I still ended up picking up booze and coke and spinning my life way out of whack. Often times we do not see the damage and desparation that results when we go through a trauma.
I lost my wife to a friend. I thought I was getting through it. yet the longer I live and the further it is behind me, the more vividly I can see how big a deal it was.
So ya, a mature person is less likely to make bad decisions. Yet it is not 100%. The human heart is the most complex thing I have ever known. And we can be incredibly self-defeating in our choices. We can defy logic and wisdom at the drop of a hat.
With that said, I prefer to continue to strive to grow. It ia always the safer route.
