If I am correct you said Jody is on vacation until the 23rd? Only another day away...def call her and let her give advice about this.
The thing that I do notice that is so weird is that he never seems to have these talks to you face to face it's usually over email/IM and then he is completly different when he is in front of you. Even last night he had to have a few drinks before saying anything and he started the convo in the dark facing the other direction.
I do think that is best that you go to your friends house and don't let him know until the last minute. Let him wonder what you are doing and don't be so available!!
If he is not going to file the papers and you aren't either then there is still definatly time to work on things. You never know chickie this could turn around and we are all here rooting for you!!
