I think the example she and my Dad gave of not communicating effected us. It's what we knew, it's what we did in our own marriages.
Wooo MaState..... rigorous honesty here! Hats off to ya.
A realization like this is what I refer to as "The Good Stuff". Meaning that these kinds of self assesments are what growth is all about.
They are such the antithesis of blame.
Honest self-assesment (not to be confused with self-blame or self-condemnation) is dealing with truth in a mature way. I do not believe we can ever change anything that we are not honest about.
God as I understand him teaches that truth is freeing. Meaningful self-assesment is a pure example of what I believe this means.
To be able to look at your home life situation (family of origin) and to make a non-judgemental assesment of a problem that got woven into the fabric of your and your siblings understanding and behaviour is an amazing breakthrough. Doing this without blame, resentments or excuses is amazingly mature.
Then to move on and deal with it is even more amazing. You and those around you will benefit from your recovery from such a situation.
Perhaps this is the kind of stuff that the theme of this thread refers to. This is the kind of stuff I hang around here for.
