I just need to vent

[Livin4ME]

Here's an update....we talked today about moving. He wants to file and it be finalized before we move. After all the hints about not finalizing it until we moved, he still didn't get it and I told him about the idea. He doesn't think he can do it. Because of her. He feels he needs to prove to her that he's done with me before she'll move with him. BUT...he's going to give me part of his reenlistment bonus so I can move out there too. hahaha...yeah, it's funny.
And he will be taking them to her house for overnites even before the D is finalized. He informed me of this!!! Even tho the courts do NOT think very good on that matter. And he knows it. It's what SHE wants. I told him it won't b happening. So he informed me, I had to go thru the courts to stop him. I told him she has no right to make decisions on our children until she becomes their step mother. Especially while we are still legally married. So get this, he actually agrees with me!!! He doesn't think they should spend overnites with her either!!! But he won't tell her that cuz then she'll walk. So he is allowing her to make decisions on OUR children, even tho he doesn't agree with them because she'll walk if he doesn't go along with it. HAHAHAHA for real!!!
AND she wants to be friends with me!!! But she doesn't want me and him to agree on anything regarding our kids unless she also agrees on it. If she doesn't agree with it, then we have to go thru the courts. I informed him that she will not be my friend because she doesn't respect me as the mother of his children. If she did, she would respect our decisions that WE agree to and she would stay out of it. And she doesn't want me and him to agree to anything cuz that would mean we're friends, and she sees that as being too tempting for him and he'll try coming back to me if we're friends. So by the end of all this, we will be hating each other and she's gonna make sure of it so there isn't any temptation for him to leave her and come back to me.
So I told him that at the rate he's going he won't be able to wipe his own a** without her permission and he'll b too chicken sh*t to ask for it. So she'll be there with him everytime he picks up and drops off the kids, regardless of where we are, just to make sure nothing is going on. And when they leave, I'll roll around on the floor laughing my a** off.