Thanks. Dinner was good, but wolfed down a bit too quickly!
When H gets home don't bother trying to act super-positive. if you're not feeling it he'll notice it's an act. Instead just remove yourself from his company- sleep in a different room and hole yourself up in there for the evening maybe. Just don't interact with him any more tonight.
I like the plan of leaving a not for him tomorrow and being unavailable again. He's asked for space so give it him- I can't think of any other options for right now. if you retreat you can plan your next move from a place of detachment.
Finally, just because he's giving this message consistently right now doesn't mean it's going to be the message forever. All WAS give a consistent message of being done with the R, but all the success stories on here say that they don't feel that way inside. Your H is the same- he's confused and unsure inside but feels he has to present a clear message so that you understand. Counteract that by act AS IF you've understood what he wants and are giving it to him. You know this isn't the end, but he doesn't have to right now- you can outflank him.
Very battle-fuelled language there. That's what spaghetti does to me.
