BobbiJo, I know you don't know me from Adam. I pretty much just lurk these days. I went through my D sitch almost 2 yrs ago (can't believe it's already been that long).
I have been reading your sitch for a few wks now. I just hate what has happened in the last few days. (I know you already have plenty of support, but . . . )
For some reason, your sitch reminds me a lot of mine, so I can remember how you must be feeling right now -- that horrible feeling in your stomach?!
As hard as it is going to be, you are going to have to make sure you just take care of yourself & your kids. I have boys about your childrens' ages (plus 1 more in the middle of the other 2).
I would also say don't co-sign anything until you speak w/ your lawyer. On the other hand, if it is going to help keeping him close and make it easier w/ the kids, then I guess you will have a decision to make there.
I lived w/ my WAS the entire D sitch time. It is very hard, but doable. It is very hard to do the detaching thing though, as others have told you already. You unfortunately have some practice on all of this, so maybe you will have an easier time (whatever easier may mean LOL)
I guess I just wanted you to know that there was one more "somebody" out there reading along & pulling for you and what is going to be best for you & the kids.
If you can get that few days away, that would be wonderful, but I don't see you leaving your kids right now either. Maybe getting a massage would be doable, or just having some quiet time at the house when no one is there.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
