Hey JGrind, look at T2L stich today, she gives some great wonderful advice that really made a difference to me which I applied today.
Also she has not turned into the OOW...if you get my drift. Go read it...It was very encouraging for all of us.
You are making me reconsider Divorce Care if they do encourage reconcillation, I am all for that! I know this will be a long haul. H is in a fog and until it starts to splinter with OW, he will keep up in that fog.
You did great with your H this week. You need to ask..for you that is a 180 for you. That is probably why you ended up with depression...handling it all, never saying no, then you shut down. There is NOTHING wrong with having depression especially since you have recognized it and are dealing with it. Kudos to you.
Also I just asked H to pay for 1/2 of D28 plane ticket for her to come here for Thanksgiving and also 1/2 for D15 initial payment for braces. H said yes to both. Got him at a good time. If H can spend all that money on OW then he can spend some on his own family.
Your right I have some friends and family already encouraging me to see when I am going to go for D. I don't even want to consider it at this time. If H asks then I will deal with that even though it will break my heart..one day at time is all we can do right now.
Stay strong.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
