WAW - Possible MLC I need help, WAWs advice II

[thrillisgone]

Karlah - When my ExW and I first separated I was so devastated that I couldn't even imagine having a relationship with another woman. The thought of it made me so incredibly sad and depressed. I took my wedding vows to heart and enjoyed being married. Loved it and loved her with all my heart.

I did everything I could to salvage our marriage. I made every effort. I didn't date while she ran around with the OM. I stayed true to my vows until the divorce was legally final. I was truly a one woman kind of man.

However there comes a time when you realize that you are living your life for something that is dead. These situations drain everything good from your soul. They exhaust you. What my W did to me was cruel,but most of all it was unnecessary.

Once you get over the shock and start healing from the pain you begin to believe in yourself. After that, others believe in you.

The woman I'm dating is ten years my senior and she is a mature, fun and intelligent woman. Instantly we could talk about anything. Marriage, sex, relationships, work, children. No drama, no agendas just honest no pressure nurturing communication. What a breath of fresh air. It helped that I'm great friends with her sister and brother in law, so I was "vetted" before hand :-)

There are alot of frogs out there but there is a big world of very good people also. Some right under your nose. I would have never guessed. Dating has so many benefits. I feel alive, more relaxed and at peace. Those qualities make a person more attractive and suddenly the world opens up. I smile more. I'm happier. I'm enjoying myself and everyone can tell...even strangers.

Life is way too short to be anxious,sad,preoccupied,worried and depressed. Relationships are supposed to enrich your life not freakin' kill you.

I had been dying slowly. This came out of the blue and breathed air into me. Walking hand in hand, giggling, laughing and holding eachother is mmmm good. To be go out to a restaurant and have someone watch your every move in a kind nurturing way and respond to you instead of feeling that funky stressful undercurrent is like a psychological xanax. It is very healing.

To be able to reciprocate makes a man feel like a man. This woman makes me feel like a man. As many differences as there are between women and men, a great many needs are strikingly similiar.