Losing Ground but turning around

[AliSuddenly]

Hey BA...good to hear from you, I was thinking of you.

It must feel frustrating and like you are stuck and nothing has changed... but his confession to you was MASSIVE. You've been M to this man for how long and finally he tells you? He must have a tonne of guilt and shame over what happened to him, 11 is awfully young and men bottle things up, so I cant imagine how hard that was for him to carry around that secret for so long, no wonder you cried.

I dont see you are right back where you were, although I am sure it must feel like it. For now.. he will feel exposed.. he finally got it out, but it must feel terrifying to him that he told you, especially if his last experience of being honest didnt go well. I would treat him gently and try not to get frustrated for now? Its a testament to how close you are still that he did tell you. Do you think he has told ow?

Have you spoken to a C or a specialist support group/helpline for victims of abuse? If not, I thikn that would be very helpful in understanding the impact on your H. Thats if you still have energy left to thikn about him, as you have been on a rough ride yourself and I am sure you are exhausted.

Ali xxx