T2L, you are our hero, we were really getting into the depression weeds here -- maybe with me leading the way!
Can you run a morning class where we can all call in and you can give us a pep talk!!! lol cheaper than DB counseling. I think part of my problem is dealing with the family/friends when I leave for X-mas and leaving him here. I have to drop the rope on this.
I think I was at the point you were a few months into it, anger, depression, thoughts of killing the OW (remember I am Italian) but as always you have inspired me...
Now first -- you little vixen ---OMG - you have won this battle and I hope you win the war! Whoa Whoa. How was it? I am soooo jealous. How I want to get to that point and I loved how you handled it. He had to cave when you made no demands. We will have to talk more how you led up to this. I have to be positive for the future. You are officially the other other woman ;-)
Well I did make the call to H about that little battery. He was at his apt for lunch so he said he would run over to look at it. I told him how hard I tried to climb the ladder but I could not reach it. H said of course you could not reach it, I will take care of it for you. Then we chatted some more about work and then he says "I want to tell you how good you looked Saturday night -- you have lost some serious weight and you looked very pretty with the way you did your hair!!!!" I said thank you. Then H says anytime you want to go out just ask me and I will stop in to check on Colleen or take her where she needs to be. Just try to give me advance notice. (grrrrr) You need to go out and I want you to enjoy yourself. I said that would be nice but usually I go out last minute depending on my plans (mysterious). I also told him how great the Irish band was and they played all the kind of music he loves. H asked alot of questions about it.
H then said I have been trying to cut down on junk food (what about all the booze?? -- to myself of course), so I said that is just GREAT, I know once you start you always do so well -- good for you (yes admiration is right up there with sex - #2). H said I will call you later and let you know if I fixed it.
Then I said I got to go I am outside the gym and need time to go work out. H said you are doing so good and I hung up.
So I drive back later and I see H in smoke shack (yes he smokes also), and he waves and I see the expression on his face and then see he is on his "special phone" So I wave and smile and keep going... awwwww.
I go to my desk and I send H and e-mail saying
"I forgot to tell you about the backyard. If you have not gone to our house yet look in the back. Since you have worked in the yard you will see that some flowers are now blooming (I saw a hummingbird out there yesterday) and the plants are much much healthier. Thanks for taking care of the yard because I probably would have killed them all instead! I don't have that green thumb."
So instead of pouting about H calling OW I turned it around and complimented him on working on our yard (It is the size of a postage stamp)!! lol
T2L and rest of stich, I am really trying to find a way to expose OW without firing. T2L, I agree H is racking up debt big time but if H lost his job we could not survive and I worry it would drive H to move in with OW since they both would be fired and penniless! Any suggestions on how to cast at least a shadow on this A, and let them start to get nervous. Right now I think they have no worries because no one would get suspicous since everyone knows me as H's wife. Any good suggestions.
T2L, how is H acting now that you both did the "deed", is he acting guilty or what? I know I keep going back to this but I am floored...!!!
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
