This sucks!!! It's all about convenience and guilt and escaping from the grown ups world...
He will be down on his knees soon. I know it. I hope you get luckier than I have been and you dont get too detached when that happens. You sound strong but God, I am sorry I cant be of any help... Love K
I think that going through this for a second time has helped me. I am better at dropping the rope and detaching now. If he doesn't choose to be with me I will not "convince" him it is his job to stay with me. I don't want to be a consolation prize, a duty, an obligation...I want to be someone's "treat", I want to be the person someone thinks about during the day and smiles, and wants to come home to at night.
I will not plead or any of that. I am moving forward b/c that is what H wants and I will not stand in the way. I do not anticipate him skipping down the street grinning anytime soon. Being "free" will not bring him joy. He is choosing not to see joy anywhere and that is not my problem to solve.
Dan also has some very unrealistic expectations. let's say old cowboy Dan does meet someone else down the road. Does he actually think that a women he meets down the road will just be standing there with open arms to allow BBJ to come on in and have family time with the kids..that a new women would actually want him to just go out with BBJ and the kids for family night.
and BBJ I think the same goes for a new man in your life.
also BBJ..would you actually cosign anything for him?? I would think since he's so ready to move on all of a sudden then maybe there might be someone else that could co sign..
I would also hazard to guess that the "both in the same house sitch" will start to deteriorate rather rapidly..it just does not work..especailly with Dan's anger issues/stress levels..
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 10/21/0805:16 PM.
Speak to your lawyer about the implications of co-signing for his new house.
How do you think your H is going to do taking care of a house and kids all by himself? I think he is jumping out of an airplane without a parachute and does not realize that the ground is approaching fast.
I wonder if psycho "drive by with radio on" OW is waiting in the wings. If so, I do hope he uses time, caution and compassion for you before introducing the kids to her. It is very tough hearing from the kids about an OP who is taking part in parenting.
If she is there he sure as hell doesn't need me to co-sign anything...I don't think I will it is not in my best interest to sign my name onto something that large that i will have nothing to do with.
I kind of want to puke. Really want to call in a 1/2 personal day and get going on a budget.
