I didn't know you had those conversations with your wife. That's good, h4h. She needed to hear those things. She remembers them even if it seems like she doesn't. I'm guessing, in her mind she is believing that God understands that she made a mistake with you (age difference, whatever, etc.). Problem with that is she didn't do all she could to make sure of that. She didn't stop seeing the OM, she didn't go to counseling, she didn't talk to a pastor, she didn't read books, etc.
No, you can't force her. The movie won't change your frame of mind. In fact, you may find peace from it. As I watched it, I thought about how my H pretty much did what the H in the movie did without even realizing what he was doing. You are a lot like my H, h4h. I really think you'd benefit from seeing the movie. Nothing to be scared of.
I feel like I am getting annoying to you lately, and I hope you understand why I have pushed certain issues....retrouvaille, not dating other women, this movie.......they are all things to help you focus on your marriage. I realize that some day you may have to let go, but until you are no longer married you still have a chance to not lose it. Being dark is fine if you do this for yourself and to save your feelings for your wife, but going dark and then going out with others doesn't accomplish the same thing. It allows you to get what you need from others rather than yourself or thinking of your wife. It's a slow fade.
As for going out with other girls...no matter whether you are feeeling something or not for them....how can I explain it ......Here, this song does:
CASTING CROWNS- SLOW FADE Be careful little eyes what you see It's the second glance that ties your hands as darkness pulls the strings Be careful little feet where you go For it's the little feet behind you that are sure to follow
It's a slow fade when you give yourself away It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid When you give yourself away People never crumble in a day It's a slow fade, it's a slow fade
Be careful little ears what you hear When flattery leads to compromise, the end is always near Be careful little lips what you say For empty words and promises lead broken hearts astray
It's a slow fade when you give yourself away It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid When you give yourself away People never crumble in a day
The journey from your mind to your hands Is shorter than you're thinking Be careful if you think you stand You just might be sinking
It's a slow fade when you give yourself away It's a slow fade when black and white have turned to gray Thoughts invade, choices are made, a price will be paid When you give yourself away People never crumble in a day Daddies never crumble in a day Families never crumble in a day
Oh be careful little eyes what see Oh be careful little eyes what you see For the Father up above is looking down in love Oh be careful little eyes what you see
