Signs to say WAW woke up?

[dday101798]

Hi, I have been posting in the newcomers section but after reading through some of the threads here and changes in the situation I thought this best be asked here.

What are the TRUE signs, that a WAW is starting to wake up and relize what they left?

I haven't seen my W in about a month, we've been physically seperated since 7/12 and lived in a sepereated state in our house since May.

Only recently after me finding out I have some health problems that need to be dealt with, getting a life and a bit of "dating" and severe issues with our sons 10 & 11 behavour have we now spoken via phone sanely for little more than a week.

She has had a OM living with her basically since leaving and I feel that went on for a long time before, although she denies it. Through our social network of friends and the way our town works, I find myself constantly hearing that one thing she tells me after another is nothing but lies and I have caught her in her own several times.

However, in this recent week, she has adapted a new, quiet, apologetic and sincere tone that is very comforting. she even said she wants to take care of me through any surgery or therapy if needed. We are to meet tonight to discuss the kids and potential fate of the house, and stataus of the D that she has all the sudden put on hold.

So again, what is a true sign I can trust? I know it should be obvious, but she is no longer someone I know and know if I could trust.