Well he responded with he wants me and only me, and wants to stay and work on the marriage.
Limbo, This is very good. I would say, he must to commit to no secrets. He must be able to share every interaction he has with her and avoid getting personal with anyone he feels attraction to (this actually is something everyone in every marriage needs to do to help avoid affairs).
You have to be the one he's open with, he can share things with... and you need to be strong enough and loving enough that he feels comfortable doing this. In other words, affairs thrive in secrecy and sharing of thoughts ideas, etc... You have to be the person he shares his secrets, thoughts, ideas, etc... Keep in mind, it's easier to share innermost thoughts and feelings and connect when you feel you can be completely open and not hurt the other person. So it's important that you heal and eventually leave this behind...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
