My H is not much of a beach guy either. I guess I don't know many guys that are, lol.
I think my H knows how much I miss the affection, I just don't think he is capable of thinking about anyone but himself right now.
In the face of that it is a struggle to keep up the PMA. I'm really working on it. I'm breathing. Not so sure about H. Not sure a whole lot is possible with the RCI.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.