1. He has not filed for a divorce 2. You are still sleeping in the same bed 3. He is still looking for a connection with you, if he did not care he would not call and ask you how you are feeling or try to find out where you are. Even if it is guilt driven-if he did not care about you at all then he would have nothing to feel guilty about in the first place 4. He is not kicking you out of the house
There are more I am sure but those are the ones I see at the moment. I know that it is hard to listen to them go into "hopless mode" but you have to understand that it does not really mean too much, just venting on their part. Remember the old DB saying "believe nothing they say and only 50% of what they do" You seem to have forgotten that along the way.
I do not want to sound harsh here because I do feel for you and think he is being out of control angry and rude to you. I am still concerned that he is being borderline abusive. There is emotional abuse too. . .which can be more dangerous and hurtful that physical abuse. Please be careful.
I think the most important thing is to give space and not engage in another R talk. Walk away if you have to, block him on IM if he starts it up and won't respect your boundaries. You are tired and you need time to recouperate. He needs to understand that and respect it. But if he can't/won't then you have to take it upon yourself to make sure you are being taken care of and not too stressed out.
I still think there is hope for your situation. So take the time away and then come back in with a refreshed heart and attitude and see what happens. It seems like before, when you guys had a blowout it would sometimes lead to more positive interactions a day or two later. And to me it seems like it is already changing based on his phone call to you.
