I don't think it is so much that she doesn't want him, as it is that she doesn't want to enable him. How tough is it when you can just move back to your mom's house when things get rough?
However she just found out last night that she has bladder cancer. I mentioned to H last night that i don't think it would be good for her if he did try to move back there, bc she needs some peace and calm to heal and him being there with the kids half the time would not help her get better. She would feel the need to cook, clean, etc...
H agreed. He said he would stay at the house until he found a place to rent/buy. He is sleeping on the couch so I am sure that will add to his mental list of problems, now he can't sleep comfortably at night b/c of our situation...
I texted H earlier that I was thinking of him and his mom. Then I added that I had an appt. with the attorney for tomorrow, I was going to ask about residency requirements (we both just moved), separation, and mediation options. I told him to let me know if he had any questions for the attorney....no response.
Actually last night H said that he would like to use the same attorney as me, that he had 'nothing to hide' and it would prob. be easier that way? That's why he wants a mediator too, he said he doesn't intend to fight me on anything and again said he has nothing to hide. I suppose that is in reference to whether he has an OW on the side, or a stash of money hidden somewhere, etc...
I am very interested to see how it goes w/the attorney. I just want to know what I am looking at. I think at least one of us had to have lived in Iowa for 1 year before we can file. But it sounds like we can fill out everything for a legal separation now, and then just convert it to a D after the 1 year mark.
Oddly enough, I asked H what his plans were for tonight when he left this morning (this is the weird part of him living at home and not telling the kids anything yet, I need to know when he is around, etc. so I know what to tell them re. plans for the night and all that jazz). Anyway H said he was coming Home after work and was going to eat supper with us and spend the evening at home...
