It seems like everyone else thinks im'e just so flexible and that I don't need me/us time. Even H after he said we would go do some shopping told his sister that we would stay with his Mom. SO there went shopping and the thing is is that we are the only ones that get called and H has 5 siblings. I know that I shouldn't whine as MIL is so ill and it won't be long but Im'a stressed with no time or hardly time for me/us.
Believe me when I say it is us and two of his sisters and we are the only ones for the weekend as they won't then. This is the only time we have off and then not all weekends so it is harder on us.
OK done whining now.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
We should say no sometimes and make someone else buck up but, when she is gone at least we won't have guilt about how she was treated by us or the time spent with her. Small price to pay when you think about it.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
JAK, It does seem that the care of an ill person usually falls to the women of the family, doesn't it? I'm not knockng men at all, because my dad has always been one to those rare caregivers.
I'm sorry that you and your SILs are not receiving more help with MIL, but you are right you will know that you did the right thing and have no regrets. I wish I could give you a solution to get more help, but we know it would probably fall on deaf ears.
Hang in there my friend, you will have many stars in your crown.
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hey Jak...just checking in. Sounds like you are doing well.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Sorry for all the health issues your MIL is dealing with. It's great that you're doing so much for her. Even if he's not quite saying it I bet it means the world to your H too.
Weird about the phone calls... hope you can figure that out.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Just a quick. My computer is about to die I am afraid so if you don't hear from me that might be the reason. I'll still be thinking of you and wishing you the best!!!
