My input on such a matter would simply be to choose a counselor who is going in the same direction as you.
I would strongly suggest having a very frank and candid dialogue with the counslor before deciding on them. Make sure you are on the same page.
I failed to do this when my XW and I first started having troubles and the counselor guided us in a direction we never recovered from. He was a slob of a guy who was just too lazy to be real with us. He was a people-pleaser who was affraid to challenge us with real issues.
So regarless to what flavour of counselor you end up choozing, I would suggest you make sure they are going in the direction you believe in and that they are hard-working, fair, and honest.
