You all get help with the lawn??? \:o Lucky ladies!! ;\) I suppose you didn't have to lay out the cash for your mowers either? or make all the decisions on what to buy and how to haul it home? or change the oil and maintain it? I've been doing it all wrong because when H vacates and won't help me with things I just find a way to 'git-r-dun'. Vent over.

I know you know this but remember that you can't count on these guys to be the H's we fell in love with and married. We all change, they've just changed in a BIG way. That doesn't mean they don't notice all those wonderful things about how you look, they just won't comment to you. My H will be the first to make a comment to other ladies about a new hairdo or how nice they look or if they have lost weight or some other positive comment. It's a dagger to the esteem every time I hear him tell someone else nice things but nary a word to me. OTH, I stopped looking to H for confirmation of my life. He can't provide that for me while he is convincing himself that I am a bad person.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.