Back to life, back to reality?

[istherehope]

Thanks JCJ,

I am just so worried that when he said it was over now that he meant it. Even though he waffled a few times, it is like he never wants to go back on something.

Unfortunately when I'm actually in the office, I am on the same IM as him for work, so I will be available. I made it very clear though that I did not want to have those conversations on IM again.

Yeah I won't answer all of his calls either. Today I answered 1 of the 2.

I agree with the listening and nodding. I need to try this when he spews again. I mean last night we were in bed with the lights turned off and he wasn't even facing me when he said these things at first. It was so cowardly I thought. Then I turned the light on and freaked out at him. So many things said...I told him he needed to quit talking like a self-help book and get a grip on reality. I said that not everything in life needed to be an existential crisis.

I want to avoid any living together conversations, so in order to make it work as well as possible, I agree that I shouldn't be out of the house for "too long." I think 2 nights in a row will be fine, and then I might do the same the following week. It is possible he won't discuss things if I come and go of my own accord, but not too likely...

So I think today we can avoid the conversation, and then if I am not here for the next 2 days, and if he honors my IM policy, we should be fine until at least Saturday, as I plan to go out late Friday night.

Agreed about responding to the positives. I wish there were some to respond to though! Tonight should be interesting in any case, am looking forward to being out when he arrives. He may call or something to see where I am, but I think I will ignore him if so.

ITH