Thanks for your response, was hoping to hear from you. Yes, I am taking a harder stand and I am showing a harder side, attitude wise. She knows quite well that this situation with OM is totally unacceptable at any/all levels. I am doing what you suggested for two main reasons, and several smaller ones. Main reason #1 is that everytime my MIL talks to me about it, I get emotionally charged and it takes me a couple of days to recover, tired of being drained because of it. the Main reason #2 is becasue I believe that acting all nice an happy around her was sending the wrong message, that I accept all this crap. Well that attitude has changed. I don't really talk about anything with my kids right now with respect to my R/M. When they want to talk, I let them. I have text her regarding her part of the car ins payment she owes this week. she responded that she may not have it. If not, I seperate the policy on Friday so she will get her own bill. she is trying to connect with the kids, but is not having much success, they don't know her, that is what they say. Also, sunday, over at her friends where she took my daughter, she was complaining about her mother, complaining about all kinds of things, but my D said I never came up in the conversation. D says she was texting the OM while at her friends house. My D was a little ticked off that she was there, listening toher complain, watching her interupt conversations to text and reply to OM and hardly acknowledged my D the whole time. that is why she text me to pick her up.
The online dating thing to me is hysterical. I think its funny that my D's would do that. Country line dancing last night was fun. Not the type of crowd i would typically hang with, but I had a really good time and I will keep going.
I think this harder attitude has her confused. Started it the night of my D birthday and continued again on Sunday when she saw me. This is all she will see from me for now. More of the same. Unless I see this moving things away, I will keep up the attitude I have adopted. definitely feeling trying to be nice to her and be pleasant and smiles around her at this point is a waste. I know the book says to be pleasant because OM is being nice to her and giving her emotional support and whatever. But I am giving her reality. tough Love is what I keep hearing. I'll be honest it does help me emotionally to be this way towards her right now.
In case you're wondering. I did get several hits from women wanting to meet me from my Ds interactions with online dating. nice to feel wanted by the opposite sex.
